Please, Please, go to my site, and read a few. You could ponder on for inspiration or encouragement or guidance to further growth or to review a tool before you appeal or apologize.

What I need is feedback. I am acutely aware that there is a big difference between thinking a thought and saying it with enough words and in a logical enough way to get the thought out of my head and into the listeners. So please read and send me suggestions or requests for clarification.


  1. examine myself
  2. realize that it is impossible for me to see with balance and to see the whole picture
  3. ask for feedback
  4. consider the feedback
  5. apply the feedback
  6. reward the feedback
  7. remember God’s grace in order to deal with finding out that I am worse that I feared
  8. ONLY then can I thrive and grow!


I am called to judge that God’s ways work and other ways don’t. So, if I see another flaunting God’s ways I need to judge his danger and warn him. BUT I DON’T JUDGE HIM TO BE WORTH LESS THAN I, OR TO HAVE LESS HOPE, OR BE LESS LOVED THAN I.

Galatians 5:14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
15 But if ye bite and devour ONE ANOTHER, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
24 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
I Corinthians 11:28 But let a man examine HIMSELF, and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup.
25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.
6:1 BRETHREN, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, RESTORE such an one in the spirit of meekness; CONSIDERING THYSELF, lest thou also be tempted.
2 Bear ye ONE ANOTHER’S burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
3 For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.
4 But let every man prove HIS OWN work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.
9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
10 As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, ESPECIALLY unto them who are of the household of faith.
14 Him that is weak in the faith RECEIVE ye, but not to doubtful disputations.
2 For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs.
3 Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth: for God hath received him.
4 Who art thou that judgest another man’s servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand.
5 One man esteemeth one day above another: another esteemeth every day alike. Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind.
6 He that regardeth the day, regardeth it unto the Lord; and he that regardeth not the day, to the Lord he doth not regard it. He that eateth, eateth to the Lord, for he giveth God thanks; and he that eateth not, to the Lord he eateth not, and giveth God thanks.
7 For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself.
8 For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s.
9 For to this end Christ both died, and rose, and revived, that he might be Lord both of the dead and living.
10 But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ.
11 For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.
12 So then every one of us shall give account of HIMSELF to God.
13 Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.
12 As many as desire to make a fair shew in the flesh, they constrain you to (follow the rules they pick); only lest they should suffer persecution for the cross of Christ.
13 For neither they themselves… keep the law; but desire to have you (keep the laws they chose to emphasize) that they may glory in your flesh.
14 But God forbid that I should glory, save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world is crucified unto me, and I unto the world.
15 For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision availeth any thing, nor uncircumcision, but a new creature.
16 And as many as walk according to this rule, peace be on them, and mercy, and upon the Israel of God.
17 From henceforth let no man trouble me: for I bear in my body the marks of the Lord Jesus.
18 Brethren, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit. Amen.Amen,Amen!
In the Old testament the Benjamites raped and slaughtered the concubine of a priest. He went to all the other tribes and roused them to action to punish the obviously evil Benjamites. The other tribes went to God at the tabernacle in Shilo and asked God “do you want us to punish the tribe of Benjamin?” God said that He did. Then the tribes went to battle and in the first two battles they were beaten badly by the Benjamites. Then God said that,”this time you will win,” and they did. If you count the number lost in the two first battles, it was exactly on tenth of the army. God was saying that they were not so great themselves and had not been serving him with the dedication of their firstborn and tithes and He couldn’t use them to wipe out the Benjamites until He had dealt with them. Judges 19
Matthew 5:7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup.
4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye
John 8:7 he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
9 And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone,
Psalms 119:59 I thought on my ways, and turned my feet unto thy testimonies.
60 I made haste, and delayed not to keep thy commandments.
Leviticus 19:16 Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people: neither shalt thou stand against the blood of thy neighbour; I am the Lord.
17 Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him.
18 Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the Lord.
Matthew 18:15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against THEE, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone (Considering the high probability that you have misjudged the situation): if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
16 But if he will not hear thee,(and you are pretty sure you still have a case, but humbly realizing that you may still be mistaken) then take with thee one or two more (neutral parties that are not already on your side against the brother), that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them,( realizing that the two of you may still be mistaken) tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican. ( This would be a church leadership decision never a personal one)


Which comes easier to you, listing needs that you would like God’s help with/ or listing praises as to what he has recently done in your life?
Our brains are naturally wired to be concerned about the problems of life: we have to work hard to see all the beauty and wonder and praiseworthy things that God has done and is doing.
Sure we are grateful for things he has done in the distant past but what have I noticed him do recently. I find that it is the recent acts of the Holy Spirit in my life that give me the courage to get up and face today.

I led a Sunday school class for adult Christians a few years ago. I would start by splitting the whiteboard into (praises / requests) and then we would go to prayer. At first the requests side was packed and the praise side was empty. I than posed the question,” Is it that God has not been answering prayers, in which case why ask him for more? Or do we promptly forget His blessings, in which case why should he answer? It only took a few weeks to fill out the praises side with current answers to prayer. I guess the problem was lack of observing God at work and lack of remembering.
I suggest to all I meet that they exercise their positive vision, of what God is doing in their lives, by mechanically, that they practice the art of the PICKY POSITIVE by:

1. Stopping at lunch, supper, and bedtime. 2. reviewing the previous four hours searching for anything positive (the brain can only remember 4 hours with clarity) . When God shows me a positive, I savor it and appreciate it for a moment, let it balance my heart and then move on. When I come into trials, the memory of all the good will lessen the impact of the problem and help me turn to God rather than overreact. Then I take every opportunity to state appreciation to those around me for their positive acts and to witness to one and all what God has been doing in my life.
James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
Philippians 4:8Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
At first being picky positive, may come with difficulty, I may feel that I am belittling the seriousness of the problems by noting the positives. Or I may worry that, if I became too polyannish, I would not deal with the tasks at hand.
In reality, noticing the positives keeps me from being overwhelmed so that I have more stamina more creativity, hope and willingness to cast all my care on him and do the little that I can. I have a greater ability to bring God glory by witnessing to what he is doing in my life. I have greater peace that he can handle the current situation because he has been handling the recent situations.
My singing and praising him gains substance from being specific rather than vague. It is similar to the difference between saying to my spouse,”I love you” and saying to them. “I so enjoy and appreciate your dependability, enthusiasm, integrity, creativity etc. as I noticed in how you did (fill in the blank_______).”
Elizabeth Barrett Browning (She was talking to an earthly love, but I like to quote her to express my love to Jesus, he likes me to count the ways that he is worthy of my love.)
(JESUS)How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise,
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints -I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! -and, if the FATHER choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
Small things to be positive about: Things of beauty, interest, feeble efforts, fun, joy, useful, comforting, encouraging, strengthening. People being helpful, courageous etc.
God givomg me opportunities, opening my eyes to see, my heart to pray. Teaching me from nature, or his word, or through fellow travelers.


I’ve made enough progress, by the grace of God, that you might want to wander over to and check it out. I was often on the verge of tearing out my already thinning hair but believed that God wanted me to continue. The normal blog site has all the blogs in and endless row and no one could possibly scan them to find what has been said on a topic. God’s ideas are infinite and unchanging, so I need to be adding new thoughts without all the old ones being lost.

So God showed me how to get an index and begin to divide it by topics. I have reworked about 25 blogs and will slowly plow through the rest but you may enjoy reviewing some of them. All the blogs are up on the index but the capitalized ones are not yet arraigned or reworked.

Any thoughts on how to make it more accessible would be received with rejoicing if accompanied with ideas on how to actually do the suggestion.

Your servant and his. Verle


1 be a peculiar priest

2 the blessing of constructive criticism

3 Seeing, not as easy as it looks

4 “I see you!”

5 Apologies

6 helping people help me

7   Be real, scary but good

8 don’t just love em, like em!

9 listening to his still, small voice

10 my tremendous lover

11 I rejoice in others gifts that I don’t have

12 the truth the whole truth and nothing but

13 passive aggressives

14 why do I love him? let me count the ways


1 almost but not enough

2. ask not what my God can do for me

3 be still and know

4 be weird–be godly!

5 heavenly minded>earthly good

6 BLATHERED–dangerous conditions ahead

7 co-dependency a serious heart condition

8 *design

9 God given correction-a good ouch! .

10 don’t like plan B? get ready for plan C

11 old? don’t be a Hezekiah

12 God has feelings too!

13 Lord, your vision not my vision

14 grateful always for everything?

15 unnatural gratitude

16 honest to God

17 I shall not want

18 mercy can feed into more sin

19 A heart after God’s heart

20  God’s heart towards my authorities 

21  God’s heart-he hates sin

22  God’s hart-love the sinner

23 surely I can’t be that bad?

24 I am the bride–He is the groom

25 investing in “lost causes”

26 is Jesus enough for me?

27 God knows–what a mess I’ve made

28 judging–do or don’t?

29 lukewarm? make God puke

30grabbing life with gusto

31 righteous wrath

32 no pain –no gain!

33 not good to be anonymous

34 NOW is the accepted time

35 obey God, even over “godly” friends advice

36 offer that which cost me nothing?

37 redeeming the time

38 quit fussing about tomorrow

39  It’s not OK to keep it quiet

40 savoring godliness

41 should I be spirit possessed?

42 the sin of fussing

43 want but be careful what I want

44 do I really want to be blessed?

45 do I want to know as God knows?

46 do I really want to find God’s direction?

47 so, what’s my excuse?

48 I may be asked to act “silly” in others eyes

49 so, what does my heart think?

50 The tribal dance, source of much evil!