DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

1 Agree to disagree

2 God’s gift-irritating people

3 God’s view of “good guys and bad guys”

4 theological debates

5 trying to fix messed up people

6 why not more?

7 Judge not the other but do judge myself

“HEART I WANT IT ALL”–GOD

GIVE ME YOUR HEART! (You may take this message personal, or you may assume that this is just God talking to Verle and he should listen up! True, but maybe both?)

(So your want to please me?  Keep my commandments!
Where should you start and what is the most important commandment?
I’m glad you asked.
Love me with all your HEART, SOUL, AND MIGHT or as I said in my New Testament, with all your  (HEART, MIND) SOUL, AND STRENGTH.
So why don’t you start by giving me your heart?  Unfortunately, I’ve run into a lot of people who think that their heart is mine and they show up at church clean and smiling and singing me praises and they even seem to get a bit high on the “worship” but I don’t look at this outward appearance, I look on their hearts , and their hearts are far from me.
Are you wondering if this might be your condition? Good, that means that you are probably very close. I like it when you don’t jump to the conclusion that you are doing perfectly fine. Those that are sure they are OK, seldom are. Don’t  forget that your heart will deceive you and is desperately wicked and you can’t know it. You say you’re not deceived? How would you know? That’s what deceived means, that you think it’s OK when it isn’t.  Ask me, go ahead and ask me to examine your heart, search it and show you it’s content and lead you in new heart pathways.  I’m really good at it and would be happy to oblige.
First of all, let me convince you that giving me your heart is really a big important deal to me.  If I want you to pay attention to something, I should only have to mention it once, right? But you are so often like a child and force me to raise my voice or call you several times before you listen! So, if I really want to grab your attention, I will repeat myself twice. If I really, really want your attention I might repeat myself three times! Let’s see how badly I want you to pay attention to giving me all, yes all, of your heart; take all your inner thoughts into captivity and direct them to me!)



Deuteronomy 10:12) And now, Verle, what doth the Lord thy God require of thee?

but to:

A.fear the Lord thy God,

B.to walk in all his ways,: thou shalt do them with ALL thine heart, and with all thy soul. Deuteronomy 26:16

C.to love him,  with ALL thine heart, and with ALL thy soul, and with ALL thy might.  Deuteronomy 6:5

D. to serve the Lord thy God with ALL thy heart and with ALL thy soul,

E. seek  him with ALL thy heart and with ALL thy soul. Deuteronomy 4:29,    2 Chronicles 15:12   enter into a covenant to seek the Lord God of your fathers with ALL your heart and with ALL your soul;

F.Pass the test, don’t wander from my word:  Deuteronomy 13:3 Thou shalt not hearken unto the words of that prophet, or that dreamer of dreams: for the Lord your God proveth you, to know whether ye love the Lord your God with ALL your heart and with ALL your soul.   2 Kings 23:3 to perform the words of this covenant that were written in this book.

G. Make it a family affair:  Deuteronomy 30:2  return to me,obey my voice, thou and thy children, with ALL  thine heart, and with ALL thy soul; 1 Kings 2:4 If thy children take heed to their way, to walk before me in truth with ALL their heart and with ALL their soul,(they shall be blessed)

H. Pay attention to what your are doing Joshua 22:5 But take diligent heed to walk in all my ways,  and to cleave unto him, and to serve me with ALL your heart and with ALL your soul.

I. Make a covenent and keep your promise2 Chronicles 15:12enter into a covenant to seek me, the Lord God of your fathers, with ALL your heart and with ALL your soul; 2 Chronicles 15:15And rejoice at the oath: swearing with ALL your heart, and seek me with your WHOLE desire; and your will find me!

 

CURING MY HEART

A scriptural meditation on the “heart cure”

HEART: The inner “chatter”, what I am really thinking deep within while my outside actions and words seem fine.

My heart is deceitful above all things! If I want it cured and truthfull I will need  the Holy Spirits help to:

Take heed, keep my soul diligently so that I don’t let what God has done go out of my HEART. Then I can teach God’s truth to my children and grandchildren because they can see beyond my words to my heart. Deuteronomy 4:9/Be humble, (having a sense of worth strength and security from God while admitting my own weak messed up self) See God’s love in the uncomfortable consequences he brings to help me deal with my iniquity Leviticus 26:41/  Put my time effort thoughts money creativity and risk into seeking relationship with God, seeking his kingdom’s welfare, seeking his righteousness.  Matthew 6:21/ Stop living for pleasure and instead discipline my heart to enjoy life Gods’ way being open to feedback and willing to change.  Deuteronomy 10:16/ Take heed to my inner thoughts which can easily believe the lie that there are other priorities in life besides God. Deuteronomy 11:16/ Lay up Gods’ words in my heart and in my soul by keeping them in front of me at all times. Deuteronomy 11:18/ Talk with others about the wonder of Gods’ truth and think on them and obey them.  Deuteronomy 30:14/             “Set my heart” unto ALL Gods’ words if I expect my children to not pick and choose their obedience. Deuteronomy 32:46, 1 Chronicles 22:19/ Take diligent heed to serve God with ALL my heart and soul. Joshua 22:5/ I must actively put away the spending of my heart-thoughts on non-God issues and instead incline my focus to Him. Joshua 24:23/ Like Hannah, pray and say, “My heart rejoiceth in the Lord because I rejoice in thy salvation Chronicles 16:10 and 1 Samuel 2:1.2 / Don’t allow my heart to faint, fear, tremble, or be terrified  Deuteronomy 20:3 / Return my heart to God by putting away other priorities, prepare my heart unto God and serve him with truth and ALL my heart, considering all he has done for me.1 Samuel 7:3 and 1 Samuel 12:20/   Be single hearted for God 1 Chronicles 12:33/ Let my heart smite me when I have sinned and beseech the Lord to forgive  2 Samuel 24:10/ Find in my heart to talk to God  1 Chronicles 17:25/         Ask God to keep his truth forever in the “imaginations” of my heart and to prepare my heart unto God   1 Chronicles 29:18/   Have in my heart to ask for wisdom and knowledge to help God’s people 2 Chronicles 1:11/ Let my heart be glad and merry  over remembering the good things God has done 2 Chronicles 7:10/ Lift my heart from the gutter into the ways of the Lord and learn to hate evil 2 Chronicles 17:6/  Learn to act out of a “perfect” heart” thinking and imagining on God’s ways continually with all my heart not just part.2 Chronicles 19:9 and 2 Chronicles 31:21/  Let God give me a tender humble repentant “soft” heart 2 Chronicles 34:27 and Job 23:16

FAITH HOPE

FAITH: the kind of belief that forces me to act on my belief and this strengthens and gives substance to my HOPE.

HOPE: the active inner discussion of, picturing of, appreciating of, the promises that I can’t yet see but (because God cannot lie) are absolutely real. This HOPE empowers and pushes my FAITH, which causes me to act on the promises and builds my FAITH and strengthens my HOPE and round and round.

There are lots of things that we believe that do not demand action. We believe that it is 186 million miles to the sun, but are unlikely to do anything different as a result. Faith is a specific type of belief in a cause and effect world that if we obey then God will do something wonderful. The devils have faith in God that causes them to act. James 2 19 “the devils also believe, and tremble.” They react in the certain knowledge of their doom. We act in the certain knowledge of God’s love and promises. If someone said that they believe that they will be given a million dollars if they went to the bank today, but they did not go. They:

  1. don’t believe it
  2. don’t have any sense of needing money
  3. don’t have any picture of how much money that is
  4. really don’t want to be in the position of having to be grateful
  5. don’t think that they deserve it
  6. think that they can earn even more money on their own by not wasting time picking up the million

So what do I believe? How should I then live? 2 Peter 3;11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of person ought I to be in all holy conversation and godliness?

How can you tell if a body is alive? It breathes! Even so, James 2;26 faith (the body) without some form of action (breathing) is dead. If you say you believe that there is a bomb in the room and you sit there. You are either suicidal or frozen or don’t believe it. If you hide under the desk you are unwise but at least you believe what you say. Even so faith does not always result in wise action but it always results in action. I find that if I try feebly and imperfectly God meets me in my obedience and empowers it, gives it good results and teaches me to act even more wisely.

RADICAL MINDFULNESS

Remember the rule? If I want to know what godliness looks like—I just picture what I normally do and then godliness will, pretty much, be the opposite!

So what is my normal state of mindfulness? Well, not to be mindful at all! I let my focus drift to the future the past and everywhere else. If I manage to pull my focus to the present I tend to 1.take for granted the good/2. go round and round resenting the negative aspects/ 3. picture and long for my present reality to be something else:

WHAT DO I HAVE?

WHO IS IN MY LIFE?

WHAT CAN I DO?

WHO AM I?

I think that if only I had more–then I would be happy, then, when I get more, I am not happy because what I wanted is now what I have and I have trained my brain to take it for granted/resent it’s flaws/and wish for even more.

If only that person loved me or that one was my friend. These people I have are selfish ungrateful electronic addicts who suck me dry and return nothing etc. etc.

There is no point trying because I would just screw up everything. I can’t do this and I can’t do that and since I can’t what is the point of trying. What I could do wouldn’t change anything!

Look at me I am unlovable, I wish I was someone else.

RADICAL MINDFULNESS:

What do I have? Let me savor it and thank God for it, take care of it, build it, invest in it and share it with others. Be CONTENT for such things as I have Hebrews 13:15

Who is in my life? Let me love on them and learn from them, enjoy them, be glad to see them and encourage them, and seek their best interest. LOVE (both phileo and agape)

What can I do? I can move my body members as servants to God according to a growing awareness of God’s principles in action and then delight in what God is able to make out of it. OBEDIENCE

Who am I? Let me delight in God’s design and craftsmanship and how it ministers to others and allows me to be a useful part of the body, rejoicing in the gifts of others. WORSHIP ( I would that everyone could be just like I but it is OK they can be them and didn’t God do a good job on them too!) I Corinthians 7; 7   11;1  II Corinthians 11;5  Acts 26;9

I look at reality with God’s eyes that see the good and the evil but do not resent, ie go round and round on the details. Then wIe seize the moment with God’s help.

Problems: I accept myself and God’s sovereignty when I can’t fix the problem. After all, no one gets away with sin or God would be mocked. I bless and minister to and pray for those who curse and use me. I set limits on the problem when I can and fix what God enables me to.

People: I love on them and learn from them and encourage them in the Lord and set limits when I need to.

Tasks: I grab them with all my might.

The I ask : IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE GOD WANTS ME TO DO ABOUT THIS SITUATION RIGHT NOW? If not, Lord help me let go and grab the next piece of life