James 3:8-12 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren , these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.
People come in whining about their problems then when suggestions are made they shoot them down or say, “well it really isn’t that much of a problem!” So I ask, “OK so why not let it go and refocus on grabbing the life in front of you?” “Well,” they reply,” it is too big of a problem to ignore and get on with life, but too small to buckle down and deal with.”
People will admit that they are messed up and say “I must be hard to live with.” This would lead the listener to assume that they are ready to change. Then nothing happens and they continue to do the same “messed up” behaviors and do not seek help. They seem to be saying that by admitting that they are messed up others should see them as honest and humble and not require genuine effort to change.
The scriptures point out that the same mouth will say “I love God so much!” and then turn around and find fault with, get mad at and put down everyone around them. Yet it is a lie to say your love God and hate anyone he made and died for.
We say that our neighbors will go to hell for eternal separation from God and that we care about them. Then few show up to go calling on those same neighbors when the church has outreach days.
They say that “we are trying to grow and are open to feedback and that we love the Word.” Yet all scripture reproves and they never report any of the reproving from having read the word. If you gave them any feedback they would punish you by counter attacking, or by defending or explaining why it isn’t true or even by agreeing and then becoming depressed BUT NEVER CHANGING.
So, what shall I say then? Whatever is just, lovely, honest, well spoken of, virtuous. Go ahead and quote scripture and sing hymns but please let me STOP and ponder “what else comes out of my mouth? Is it going to build and heal and encourage? When others irritate, do I sooth and bless?
Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath but grievous words stir up anger. The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness. A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit
Proverbs 15:23 A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season how good is it!
Proverbs 16:1 the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord.
Proverbs 22:21 that thou mightiest answer the words of truth to them that send unto thee.
Psalm 34:13 keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile.
Psalm 39:3 I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle.
Isaiah 50:4 The Lord God hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary: he wakeneth morning by morning.
DEAR LORD, HELP ME TO KEEP A WATCH ON MY MOUTH AND MAY THE MEDITATIONS OF MY HEART BE ACCEPTABLE IN THY SIGHT SO THAT MY MOUTH WON’T BE SO HARD TO CONTROL.