Lois and I once visited a beautiful mansion in Detroit built by the Fischer family of Fischer body and parts fame. It was occupied by the Hare Krishna s. The singles lived in the mansion and the married couples in cottages across the street. I have seldom seen such cooperation and peace among a working team. The kind of cooperation I have always longed to see among God’s people. BUT the price was too high. As far as I could see they had no individual personalities left. I went back to my bickering cantankerous brothers in Christ and loved how they were each so different in their thoughts, feelings and actions.
Many churches want everyone to think alike, feel alike, act alike, in order to get along. I think God wants us to AGREE TO DISAGREE AND BE AGREEABLE. Most people just don’t want to know other’s thoughts or to share what their thoughts are. Then they can pretend that they are all on the same track.
I remember watching a video from Moody which ended on the plea to take what had been shared and debate it. I proceeded to share a slightly different take on the Bible passage and was firmly told to shut up and agree with the video’s interpretation.
I once disagreed with the director of the children’s club at church. They wanted to compare the students with each other and I wanted to award them for work done and not for relative performance. The director said NO you will do it my way. I agreed to disagree and still work hard to make the program work and to get along with the director. She on the other hand never talked with me again and , if I came into the same room, she would stop talking and walk out.
Even if you are sure you are correct, remember that we do not fight and argue, we remember that the Lord will straighten them out in His own time. Jesus let the rich young ruler walk away. We share the truth , if peradventure, the Lord might grant them open eyes. We pray, Father have mercy on them they don’t fully understand. There is no point in defending THE WORD with delivery that would make Jesus pained. Remember the fruit of the SPIRIT? Love,(the unlovely)take Joy (in the privilege of relating to our enemies)find Peace (with the cantankerous) be Patient (with the harried impatient people around us)be Gentle (with the rough) and Kind (to the unkind)
Go ahead and surround yourself with people who don’t agree with you and ask God to help you remain agreeable for this will go much farther to bring them to consider the truth you share, than and amount of heated or brilliant arguing.