First, on a personal note, I pointed out that all caring godly people hit bottom and burnout sooner or later. I always have admired my dad for his faithful following of the Lord and service to the kingdom. He shared with me that there was a time not too long ago when he felt burned out. I know that about 6 years ago I was pretty depressed. I felt that, based on how my children were doing, I was a complete failure as a parent. The church did not want anything that I had to offer. Work just wanted a pill pusher, not a counselor, my back was always hurting. Whatever, I started to feel sorry for myself and could relate to Jonah, Moses, and Elijah, “God why don’t you just take me?” I knew that suicide was not an option and even that felt like being trapped. It felt that everyone wanted me only for what they could get from me and not for myself.
So what helped. I guess I just kept walking and decided that Jesus was enough even if I never accomplished great things or had lots of people want to hang out with me. I am doing better at keeping my focus on the fulfillment that must wait till I see Him face to face.
In my last blog, I said that there are three ways that we use up our serotonin and become burned out. This week I spotted a fourth. So let me review and elaborate. First we circle round and round on things we can’t control. Second we make mountains out of small stuff. (I covered two tools for dealing with these. 1. ask the question, “Is it my job right now to do something about the circling concern?”2. bring problems down to size by continually noting things God has helped me do, things that others have done well and things that are just plain positive.
Third is to suppress issues we should see’ accept the reality of, and move on. In regards to the present: we procrastinate, in regards to the past: we bury, in regards to the future: we stick our heads in the sand . ” I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it” I know that we are not to WORRY about tomorrow but it is OK to prepare and do today things that are relevant to tomorrow.Proverbs 22:3A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.
Don’t procrastinate. My daughter Cheri is wise beyond my years. A while ago I was thrilled to have the chance to teach a sunday school class. I’ve been going to this church for over a year and finally had a chance to contribute something out of my God design. I prepared well and thought I did a good job and was excited about continued oportunity to give to my brethren. The next week pastor called and said to Lois, “Have Verle bring back the teachers manual we won’t need him to teach again.” Being the fagile person I am, I was feeling hurt and was going to take the rest of the week to build up to asking pastor what I’d done wrong. That would have used up enormous amounts of serotonin to suppress my feeling, gotten in the way of performing well at work and then I would have wound up dealing with a bigger problem come sunday. Cheri encouraged me to check with pastor and not procrastinate. I called him and he was just thinking that I was a busy doctor and he’d appreciated my help and found someone else to cover.
Next blog I’ll cover the fourth way I squander my serotonin. Meanwhile let’s let go of, fussing with things we can’t control, let’s find positives three times a day and not suppress issues.
A word of caution: before opening up memories of past abuse. you must be prepared to bring healing truth into the memory and it is wise to have a pastor or counselor help you. If you just uncover things and get agitated and stop thinking about them. they will go back into your memory more poisonous then they were.