Be still, and know that I [am] God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. Psalms 46.10
Slow down! We need to be quick to listen and slow to speak. James 1.19 When we speak – slow down. After all, talking is about getting an idea out of my head and into someone else’s head and has little to do with having “said my piece>” I need to make sure I have heard them and they have heard me.
For thus saith the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall
ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength: and ye would not. Isaiah 30.15.
Young people today get on a cell phone and rattle away so fast that the listener misses about half of what they say. Maybe, for them, talking is about taking turns making noise and not about the communication. After all, televisions sets are used as decoration to cover up our loneliness and the fact that no real relating is going on. Why not fill the void with chatter to decrease the sensation of loneliness.
I would love to go to a cabin in the woods and take a pen paper and Bible and just listen. It would probably drive me crazy for a while, as my life is so full, but I’m sure it would make it easier to hear the Lord and get to know Him.
I’ve found that people are not used to being listened to. When they talk to me, I deliberately let them finish what they are saying, except to clarify that I have heard them correctly. I then speak back to them what I have heard and ask if I heard correctly. When I reply I speak slowly and with as few words as possible. I try to show by what I say that I have heard them, see their point and have a few thoughts that relate. I try to affirm all they have said that was wise or honest or helpful. It is important to speak softly and gently. The Bible says that a soft answer turns away anger. Proverbs 15.1 When I am finished, I ask them to share what they have heard me say.
REMEMBER there is no point talking at all if an idea is not transferred from one mind and spirit to the other to be considered.
2 Timothy 2.25 In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth;
It is so hard to leave the outcome in God’s hands. We try to force the other to agree or understand our view, by raising our voice, saying the same thing over and over, gathering the troops to back us up, pouting etc.
I love Paul’s lack of need to argue the truth, as he remembers that it is the Holy Spirit’s job to persuade and our job to speak boldly, clearly, but not yelling.
Philippians 3.12 Let us therefore, as many as be perfect, be thus minded: and if in any thing ye
be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you. I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ
Jesus. Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but [this] one thing [I do],
forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things
which are before,I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ
Jesus .Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow
after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ
Let us therefore, as many as be perfect, be thus minded: and if in any thing ye
be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you.