In my last blog, I misspelled charity as cherity. I guess I could blame my spell-check because it doesn’t look at the title.

The error did make me think of my fear of trying, of reaching out to share with others yet being afraid of doing things so poorly that they are not worth doing or waiting too long to do anything at all because one will inevitably flub up

. I had a psychiatric student once who had already dropped out of a career in radiology because he needed to do things perfectly and be 100% sure. He then tried psychiatry and couldn’t even make the simplest decision for his patients because no decision is ever perfect.

So today don’t wait for perfection, or even until you polish your act.  Give God what you have and he will take your feeble efforts and make them eternally useful.

There was a time I wouldn’t run groups because I am so poor at remembering names that I would inevitably embarrass myself. I was so shy I contemplated being a pathologist so that I wouldn’t have to deal with people! Hah! God had other plans.

Remember, it’s not about you it’s about Him. Is the vessel that you too obviously clay? Then how much more the contrast will show off how wonderful the treasure is and how impressive it is that God should use such a vessel.

The Lord wants me to encourage and hopefully deepen others in their dissemination of God’s truth by reading and commenting on other’s blogs. As I was reading a blog, someone commented that she had overcome her usual shyness to share a comment on the blog.

Let me be clear to all you fellow shy people, who like to beat yourselves up. I am not saying the shyness is a sin, it is allowing our fears of mankind to keep us from reaching out because of the pain or embarrassment it would cause us, this would be wrong.

I think one reason that we justify our wallowing in shyness and using shyness to justify not reaching out to others, is that we see our weaknesses,our very real “clayness” and pretend that it might muddy up the view of the beauty of Christ. Actually the reverse is true, our weakness accentuates his beauty.

I was singing a solo at church a while back. This is an act of worship and sacrifice to God, as it does make me anxious. One of my friends came up afterwards and said that he’d really appreciated the way that I shook my music papers as I sang. He was glad that I struggled with anxiety as well. So my weakness ministered to him more than my singing.

1.Admit you have the fear, 2. thank God for the shyness,(We are to be grateful for everything always)3. focus on the need of the other.( If you knew someone would die if you didn’t warn them, wouldn’t you care more about their danger than worry what they would think of you?) 4.Confess to a friend that sharing is hard for you but that God wants you to, if possible have someone with you for support.5.- AND TAKE THE RISK OF MAKING A FEW COMMENTS ON MY BLOG  to add to the discussion or give examples of how God’s truth works out in your life.

I once asked people in my church to go with me door to door on their own block and introduce me as their pastor and let me take it from there. They were more worried about the possibility of their neighbors thinking ill of them than of the possible blessing that could have come to their neighbor by our intervention.

Romans 6.21 For  I am   not   ashamed   of the gospel  of Christ : for   it is  the power of God  unto  salvation   to every one   that believeth 4; to the Jew  first  4412, and  also to the Greek .

John 17.26 And I have declared unto them thy name, and will declare [it]: that the love wherewith thou hast loved me may be in them, and I in them.

Ephesians 6:19,20 And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel,
For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.

THANKS , former chief of sinner, now forgiven blogger VERLE

3 thoughts on “OOPS

  1. I thought the word looked weird but I didn’t know it was misspelled! So what! I thank God every day for you and love these blogs. Thanks for the reminder that God can bless our weaknesses to showcase His Glory! I’ve been praying to speak boldly as I ought to speak! I’ve been praying for God Appointments!

  2. Hey forgiven blogger, your misspelling peaked my curiosity because I thought it was intentional and so I read your post and was blessed. So, thank you for making a mistake! 🙂

  3. Dr. Belle,

    This post makes me smile. I know the courage it takes to “bear your soul” like this (didn’t realize you had this shyness…it doesn’t show). I am also shy when I reach out to others but things much greater than my shyness compel me to do it anyway. Usually I feel awkward and vulnerable after the fact (…and am not always sure how to handle this feeling). But honestly, reading your little post here provides me with guidance and some relief. Thanks a bunch.


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